Your Time

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Today we are going to get a little more real.  I want to speak to all of my single readers.  There are some days when you just have those moments and you think, "being single sucks!"  I won't lie, there are times that it does.  But there is a realization that you must come to.  Being in a relationship is just one small aspect of your life.  In your life's book, being with someone who means that much to you, is just ONE chapter.  You are so much more than that.  There is your health, career, social life, career, family and spiritual life.  Just because you do not have a significant other in your life at the time, DOES NOT mean that there is something wrong with you.  It took me a while to understand this concept, but you have been given this time in your life to be single because it is a BLESSING.  Yes that's what I said, a blessing.  You are single right now because this is preparation time!  The person that you are today, is not the person that you need to be to welcome that kind of love into your life.  Now don't take this the wrong way, that does not mean that there is something wrong with you.  It simply means that during this phase of your life you are still developing other areas of your life and it just is not the right time.  At this point in your life, if the right person came along, you would not be ready.  Maybe you need to get your finances together.  It could be a time when your career should be the most important thing.  You have emotional issues that you need to address before bringing someone in that you can fully commit to.  You MUST realize that if you do not take this time for YOU, when the right person comes along you will not be the man (or woman) that you need to be!

Now those of you that are in RELATIONSHIPS, you are not off the hook.  Just because you have found an individual that you do care about does not mean that you are done growing.  Each and every day, you need to make the decision that today you will be the best partner that you can be.  Men, I don't know how we lost it, but we do not treat women with the respect that they deserve.  What happened to opening the car door for your woman?  Most of you are probably thinking "I don't need to open the door for her, her arm ain't broken!"  It's not the act of you opening the door.  She will acknowledge the fact that you took the time to think about her and ensure that she is safe.  The little things you do for a woman are MUCH bigger in their minds than how we men see it.  Too often people in relationships get comfortable and stop doing the very things that allowed them to attract that person into their life.  Then we wonder how we lost "the good ones."  I can tell you, it's because you did not act like a GENTLEMAN.  Try opening the car door around your partner's friends and they will talk about it for days.  Send flowers because it's Tuesday, it doesn't have to be her birthday.  I will be honest.  Most woman aren't that crazy about flowers.  Can I tell you what they really like?  They enjoy the reaction that they get from OTHER woman.  Send them to her at her office in front of all of her friends and see what kind of reaction you get.  I bet she will even post a picture of them to some form of social media.  This shows a woman that you are thinking of her and you did not need any reminders.  A woman needs to know that she is loved!  When she talks to you, LISTEN.  As men our first reaction when a woman talks about a problem is to offer advice.  No! A woman simply wants to be heard.  

Whether you are single or in a relationship, the message is the same.  NEVER STOP GROWING.  If you want to be the best in your career, I'm sorry to tell you but you can't go out every night.  You can't watch every game on TV.  You may also loose some SLEEP.  But anything great in life you want takes SACRIFICE.  Having a great relationship isn't easy, having your finances in order takes work, maintaining a healthy lifestyle takes EFFORT.  All of these things are necessary for a healthy life but balance can be achieved.  It's simply all about a conscious effort and planning.  

So remember, be a GENTLEMAN FIRST

Samuel Anderson

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